Happy Delicious Valentine’s Day!


Happy Delicious Valentine’s Day!!

Today is suppose to be a day for LOVE? Then what is LOVE anyways?

According to my favorite book called “True Love” from Thich Nhat Hanh, a Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk, there are four elements of true love.

  1. Maitri –  loving kindness/benevolence. It is not only the desire to make someone happy, but it is also the ability to bring joy and happiness to the person we love.
  2. Karuna – compassion. It is not only the desire to ease the pain of another person, but it is the ability to do so.
  3. Mudita – joy.  If there is no joy in love, it is not true love. If you are suffering all the time, if you cry all the time, and if you make the person you love cry, this is not really love.
  4. Upeksha  – equanimity/freedom. We must love in such a way that the person you love feels free, not only outside but also inside.

Thich Nhat Hanh says that love is “a true thing if it is made up of a substance called understanding”.

And what does happen when we have true love?

Modern scientific researches confirm that love heals us and isolation hurts us. People who have good marriages, loved ones or a close friend reduce their risk of death by one-third! The mental and physical well-being benefits attributed to having deep connections with others are the least in part due to increase levels of Oxytocin, the LOVE Hormone. The more love hormone our pituitary releases, the more benefits we receive. Oxytocin does

  • Helps us handle stress better
  • Helps reduce cravings for drugs, alcohol and sweets
  • Reduces high blood pressure spikes
  • Reduces anxiety and stress
  • Heals damaged tissue by reducing inflammation and cell death
  • improves social functioning

This LOVE hormone is excreted by the pituitary gland during labour, delivery and breast feeding. It is also released when you hug, cuddle, and share with others. We can experience the benefits of Oxytocin by nurturing our relationships with others and ourselves regularly…via so many ways – warm, loving, intimate relationship, nurturing touch on body, positive interactions and giving and receiving support with other human and animals…etc.

Thich Nhat Hanh suggests that in order to love properly, we must practice deep looking.

We must have time; we must be there, attentive; and we must observe. 

The fruit of this practice is understanding. In Buddhism, people practice meditation as an act of looking deeply into the heart of things for better knowledge and understanding.

And lastly, just like the essence of deliciousness, love hormone is optimally released and metabolized by


…..loving touches through massage, holding hands, kiss and hug to a delicious meal, your sincere listening, or your passion and dream…and so on.

Ancient wisdom always has known this fact – Buddha says,

“Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion.”

Today is the VERY Delicious Healing Day, indeed 🙂

Sending you BIG air HUGS with LOTS love, hope and gratitude from my heart,


P.S.  Delicious Party (Lunch ‘n Learn Workshop in Japanese) will be held on Feb 24th and Feb 27!

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